Sunday, December 6, 2015

Checking the Ego With Chastity

To some sexuality can be considered the grandest of distractions; whether it is mindful or not so many actions are derived by the obsession with the orgasm. This obsession lends itself to an inflammation of the ego, particularly what is identified as the "Id". The Id is a subcategory of the term we know as ego that covers the basic human instinctual drives, often associated with sexual gratification. This need for sexual gratification in way of the Id is often one that requires immediate satisfaction. The drive within the ego for immediate satisfaction is one that can bring great pleasure when fulfilled, yet also can be a source of great despair.

The ego can be at fault for many great sorrows but most commonly responsible for small daily affairs that go almost unnoticed.

The concept of chastity originated from a sense of "purity" as the words "chaste" and "chastity" stem from the Latin adjective castus meaning "pure". Historically associated with religious influences to offer a counter attack to the sin of lust, it is also often pledged by some as a voluntary act of devotion. So, naturally chastity is an excellent accessory to D/S and BDSM relations in the sense of masochism within the ego as well as devotion to a master or mistress.

It is often viewed that sexual deviance is fundamentally rooted in the satisfaction of the Id's need for orgasm, yet in the terms of chastity the eroticism is found to have the opposite action. In terms of chastity the pleasure is found from the roller coaster involved with the processing of being incapable of satisfying the obsession with the ego. This process is one, although not the same for everyone, has great similar effects in each person subject to chastity.

The ties of the ego to the desire for sexual release is one of great power that may be effecting life in ways that are not as obvious as they seem. The pure power the sexual release is apparent simply in the reality that many who do indulge in chastity require physical devices that inhibit the ability to masturbate or have sexual relations. Many of these chastity cages and devices are designed to not only stop the ability to please ones self sexually, they also make sexual arousal (particularly in males) to be very uncomfortable.  Males in chastity often find it difficult to sleep at first due to erections that happen throughout the night. Due to this it is very important to find a device that fits as comfortably as possible, which is naturally discovered via trial and error.

Sunday, August 23, 2015

Sadistic Giggle Therapy

Laughing... sounds like such a wonderful thing. Have you ever laughed so hard your sides hurt? Imagine being unable to make it stop, how your stomach muscles and entire body will continue to clench with each laugh that is uncontrollably coming from your mouth. Giggle therapy? Such a funny thing to bring out the strongest essence of my sadism.

Hands and feet bound, thighs forced open exposing your inner thighs, ribs, and armpits. There is no escaping the fingers lightly caressing your ribs.. and suddenly... being jabbed deep in to your flesh. At first, it isn't so bad.. you are laughing.. laughing is good... I climb on top of you, giving you a sweet smile right before I press the end of my elbow right in to your arm pit. Your body clenching up, a deep sharp pain in your sides as I run my little fingers over your hips and press in, sharp and deep.

You are laughing.. laughing is good.

A blindfold placed over your eyes, mouth filled with a ball gag because I am tired of hearing you begging me to stop between giggles. The ball gag still doesn't shut you up so I wrap shrink wrap around your mouth.

How many hours have gone past? Is it over?

Scared, unsure how much more you can take, the proding and poking. Body covered in soon to be bruises, stomach so sore its unavoidable to focus on the pain, and the fear.  Endorphins at an all time high... 

Tuesday, August 11, 2015

How to Effectively Make a Session Request

I have many people ask the best way to approach a domme for a session request. Just like all businesses each dom operates differently so I am going to give some general as well as specific (when it comes to booking with me) information. I personally tend to get many different types of emails some are extensive and provide the majority of the information I am looking for, while some are a simple and slightly annoying "whats up? how can I see you?" The first thing I always tell clients is to READ MY WEBSITE, obviously since you are reading this blog you have already done the number one this I suggest. The second thing I would ask you to consider is actually reading my website and FOLLOWING DIRECTIONS. Under my real-time session section of my website I specifically request information from you and I also state my rules.

Some of the most important things I absolutely require while emailing me to book sessions is:

-Approach me as you would with any inquiry to a professional about making an appointment. I expect you to take a little bit of time to greet me RESPECTFULLY. As you know first impressions are important. I find short one sentence emails such as "lets hang out" or "do you strap on?" to be inappropriate. I am a professional not a friend you are messaging on facebook.

-Include the information I ask for on my website, to show that you have read and understood the rules. I ask for very little information; a valid phone number, a description of interests and experience as well as when and how long you would like to book for.

-Awareness of the fact that I am a person with a life and this is exactly why I do not take same day sessions. It is imperative that you remember this. It is best for our relationship if you take the kindness to  book ahead of time. I preform better if I have several days to think about our session and come up with creative ideas. It also shows you are considerate of my time.

-It is important that you EFFECTIVELY COMMUNICATE your interests, limits and expectations. I am not a mind reader. Granted, leave room for creativity and addition of my own personal style, but taking the time to articulate your specific interests. If you are new to bdsm and you aren't exactly sure of your interests try to give me an idea of why you are interested in trying bdsm and any particular thing you are interested in. Ask questions you have. I am fully willing to answer questions to an extent. Do not however email me sexually explicit questions as I will assume you are wanking to my email and I will not respond.

- Give me a sense of who you are! I consider every session I have to be very personal. I like to know who I am dealing with. If you are interested in knowing more about me be sure to read my about me, watching my vlog on youtube and reading my twitter.

- Consider a tribute or a wishlist gift. Nothing puts you in my good graces more than showing that you are working towards getting in to my good graces. Of course every dom loves to be shown appreciation.

Thursday, August 6, 2015

Preparing for Penetration

I had a friend of mine ask me how to prepare for anal the other day so I figured I would put the info out there for all sexes to learn from so everyone can enjoy anal as much as I do! I feel like many people do not engage in anal sex, or they feel anxiety about it because they are worried about the natural consequence of playing with buttholes... sometimes you just get shit on. Here are a few tips I have compiled over the years for those of you bottoming AND topping for anal play! If you want to be fully prepared I would suggest planning ahead.

1. If you are going to have anal sex refrain from eating a huge meal of Mexican food the day before. I would suggest to eat light, and depending on when you are planning to engage in anal play perhaps drink a smoothie the night before for dinner to avoid large solid amounts of food.

2.  Prepare your butthole. For many the average dick (or strap on) is far too large to be directly inserted. Not if you are going for a more pleasurable, easy going experience. I often suggest to wear an anal plug the day before and depending on when you are engaging in anal play even the day of to help to loosen yourself up and get used to the feeling of having something in your ass because for many beginners it can be a very strange feeling at first, don't worry, you will learn to love it.

3. Enema. I always have slaves enema prior to anal play, I also enema when I indulge in anal play in my private life. I have found it most effective to enema a few hours prior to anal play, so like to enema more than once sometimes the night before and a few hours prior. It is all up to you! I would not suggest using an enema directly before anal play as that can back fire at times. Enemas can be purchased at a drug store or grocery store and have instructions that are easy to follow.

4. Take it easy. When I indulge in anal play as a top I always first use a few fingers to assess the situation, to see just how tight the hole is before just ramming my strap on in there. I use a lot of lube and test the waters, first with one finger, two, and then three. If you are in to anal play it is always a good idea as a top to indulge in foreplay which helps the recipient relax, if it is within your limits finger, eat out and play with the butt before just going balls deep. If your bottom is turned on, relaxed and feeling it this facilitates a much more enjoyable experience for both parties.

5. Have fun! Don't let the fear of poop stop you from having a great time. Anal play is an extremely enjoyable experience. Despite all the preparation it must always be remembered by both parties that when you play with fire you might get burned, accept it. Relax and enjoy. Poop happens, don't be ashamed, just laugh it off. Anyone who is mature enough to be having anal sex is required by my beliefs to also be mature enough to deal with poop. Now, don't let this scare you as it doesn't happen often, especially when you prepare properly! So spread those cheeks and get playing!

Saturday, August 1, 2015

Tease and Denial

Oh, you silly little horny boys! Tease and denial is simple, and yes, at least with me you often gamble with denial. Don't ask for what you cannot handle.

Tease and denial is something that I find to be exciting. To me it allows me to use the power of my sexuality and my body to bring you to your knees without even putting a finger on you. To make you weak with my womanly body and have you begging to allow you to cum. Grovel all you want, if I allow you to touch yourself you are lucky. How lucky of a slave are you to be allowed to stroke your pathetic cocks to my art of tease? You lower yourself even more to plead for me to allow you to release. Little do many of you realize that your release is not my concern, your inability to release while I tease and open up the doors of your fantasies, is what I am after.

Harnessing your weakness with my movements. Breaking you down to a puppy eyed, begging, drooling male at my feet. Begging me for sweet release as if I care. The pleasure I gain from looking in to your sad, pleading eyes is immense. How could I allow you to release now when I could toy with you for hours, days and even weeks? Whether you just have a love for the female body, or if you have a specific weakness such as leather or a woman in boots, I will find a way to exploit it.

Are you willing to take the gamble? To be begging at my feet for release?

Friday, July 31, 2015

Prostate Magician

If I were a man for a day I would be fucked in the ass. I would have my prostate milked just to see what it feels like. I often get many questions about prostate milking. Unlike women, men have this thing called a prostate, usually when the prostate is mentioned usually orgasm isn't the first thing to come to mind. Little do many men know that a properly stimulated prostate can be extremely pleasurable. Dubbed the 'male g-spot' the prostate can be a place of pleasure that can experience orgasm much like women, a full body euphoria that can be stimulated again and again. In some cases prostates can even be "milked".

Prostate milking is made possible when the prostate glad is massaged, when successfully massaged it can produced a milky liquid in orgasm, hence the term prostate milking. The prostate gland in men produces seminal fluid.  An orgasm from prostate milking can result in eyes rolling back in to the skull, full body tingle and an extended orgasm.  Not only is prostate milking extremely pleasurable, it can also increase orgasm intensity over time as well as promote prostate health.

So, where exactly is the prostate? The prostate is a small glad roughly 2-3 inches inside of the anus. You can find it by feeling upwards. When I engage in prostate massage I typically prefer the male to lay on his back for easier positioning. The prostate is then massaged, I have found the best method to be with two fingers.  The prostate becomes larger with arousal.

Prostate milking feels different for each person, and like many things sometimes it is effective and achieved easily, and other times it is difficult to make happen.

Saturday, July 18, 2015

Teacher Blackmail

Today during a very fun role play session I got to be an evil manipulative student. My professor has been creeping on me since the very first day of class, a few days ago he called me in to his office in which he proceeded to tell me some very questionable things for a teacher. Little did he know I had recorded the entire conversation. I played it cool, pretended like I might be interested in some flirting while gathering my evidence.

A few days later I visit the professor in his office after class. He regrets our previous conversation and makes it clear to me that he doesn't want word getting out about our little indiscretion. I can tell he is very concerned about keeping his job, as well as his wife. I now have him in my grasps. "So" I tell him, "you would do anything in order to keep this recording I took out of public eye?" He is shocked, now knowing I have evidence of our previous encounter. He looks terrified.. "What ever you want. What are you going to make me do?" I walk up to the chalk board in his room, telling him that I have a lesson for him.

I pick up the chalk and write on the black board:

Lesson 1: YOU LOVE COCK.

Followed by a drawing of a huge pink cock.

Little does this professor know, it is in my intentions to turn him in to a dirty, cock sucking sissy slut. What a poor sad little loser, and Lesson 1 is only the beginning of his training....

(all scenes are consensual and involves two of age adults)

Monday, July 6, 2015

Electrical Play

Electrical play is something that I had been looking forward to for a while.  I often refer to the violet want as the "Super Power" machine, where you gain the power to be able to shock the shit out of people by simply holding a part of it in your hand. The Violet Wand works by plugging it in and you can attach things such as bulbs, which is shown here and by touching the bulb directly to someone you can shock them. The less surface area on the attachment the more extreme the shock. It is key to not directly touch it to someones flesh, but to simply glide it right over the skin. There is also another element to the Violet Wand, which is where the super powers come in. There is an attachment that when held by the top energy can be cultivated and transferred to the bottom via conductive materials. So essentially if I am holding the Violet Wand in my hand and I run a fork over a bottoms skin it feels like I am cutting them with my electric powers. I have always been very interested in energy study, being one of those weird yogi people for several years and studying soul energy as a hobby, electrical play is something I find fascinating.

Next we move on to tasing. Tasing is something I also really like and use often in sessions. There are several different kind of tasers ranging from knuckle tasers to cattle prods. I think that my favorite thing about most tasers is the noise, which is a brilliant way to mind fuck someone without even actually tasing them. Tasers make very specific noises that almost anyone can recognize, I often find it fun when someone is blind folded to put a taser near their ear and turn it on and then simply poke them with my finger. It is pretty hilarious and lends for a good laugh when they jump at the lightest of a finger poke.

Electrical play gives me many laughs. I get a huge kick out of watching a little bottom squirm around when they see and hear the taser in my hand. It is pretty funny watching someone dance whenever I touch the taser to their skin. It is definitely a great way to get someones attention and to promote obedience in a very quick fashion.